Q: What does The Urantia Book say about unhappy marriges?
A: Marriage is one of the most challenging relationships that two people can engage in; marriage can bring great happiness, and it can also bring great sorrow. Marriage can bring out the best in a person and it can bring out the worst. Marriage is the first social unit, and the bedrock of civilization. Without it, our civilization would not have evolved as it has.
Please see: The Partnership of Man and Woman
In this section, we read:
Whenever you see the word “antagonistic” you can assume that you have a situation that is going to be challenging, and marriage certainly is that. “The conflict is inevitable.” One has to sacrifice “personal interest” at times; one has to practice the art of “antagonistic co-operation.” Nonetheless, people everywhere strive for the partnership of marriage. It is probably the most desired of all relationships, and when it works well, it is beautiful to see. There is nothing more heartwarming than an elderly couple who have been together for decades and who still feel the warmth of love for one another:
As to why a marriage might produce unhappiness, Rodan of Alexandria had some great words of wisdom.
In the section titled The Art of Living , Rodan has this to say:
This entire section is well-worth a careful reading.
In our modern societies, marriage suffers. A website that I recently visited maintains that the rate of divorce is running about 50% in America, and even higher in some other countries. If we carefully read the quote above, it is easy to see that unhappy marriages are lacking either a high degree of “genuine and mutual personal devotion” to the marriage itself, or a lack of agreement between the partners as to the values that might otherwise keep them together through the hard times.
Rodan also calls marriage one of the “superior accompaniments of human maturity.” Only an emotionally mature person can hope to be truly successful at marriage. And so, even though marriage is held up as THE relationship to strive for, it still fails of success when its participants enter into it without the accompanying maturity that might keep it afloat.
Maybe modern societies would do well to adopt the following advice From The Urantia Book:
And maybe the teachers of such ideals should be those old couples whose marriages have stood the test of time…
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