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Thanks so much for writing to TruthBook with your heartfelt note. I am sorry to hear that you’re suffering through a breakup…no fun! Whether you initiated it, or the other person did, breaking up is hard to do, as the old song says…

Being a Urantia Book reader, you likely know that Jesus advised us that love is the greatest thing in the world. Most of us go through life looking for love, and looking for that certain someone with whom we are simpatico and with whom we can share the love of God that fills our hearts. Some are lucky in love and find that special someone early, and some of us go through relationship after relationship before we find the one that is our perfect fit.

If it didn’t work out this time, I am sure you’ll get another opportunity to try again – if that’s what you want. If I was you (and I have been in your position more than once), I would use this time of recovery to hone your finer sensibilities towards love of all sorts. Most of all, learn to love yourself better. Forgive yourself – and your ex – and learn to enjoy your own company again … just you and God. Being happy with yourself and loving who you are as an ennobled child of God will make you someone who is irresistible to the right person. You are worthy of the highest and best kind of love … believe it!

Thank God for his love in your heart, and look for ways to share it with others, even if that sharing is with brothers and sisters who are not candidates for a paired relationship. Keep busy, and try not to dwell on what’s past. Ask God to show you some service opportunities while you wait for that spark to ignite again with someone new. Practice random acts of kindness for awhile …

We can enjoy fulfilling personality relationship with many people, and the divine love of God is a constant wellspring for us, whether we are sharing it with a significant other, or the clerk at the store; it is how we translate and give it through our dealings with all God’s children that ensures that we keep our cup running over with it. And the more we pass it along – pay it forward – the more we can expect to experience it it large ways and small ways. Divine love – the love of God – is happy-making and has to be shared…even if it isn’t that special kind of love with a special someone that we all crave. I am sure you’d agree that even that kind of love must start as loving friendship and sincere interest.

Even though it is difficult to deal with a breakup, you can be grateful that you are now freer to find that someone who is just right for you. Obviously, if this relationship did not work out, it’s best to see it end, rather than to expend a lot of energy trying to make something work that is not meant to be.

Again, I am sorry that you are dealing with this breakup in your love-life. I can relate to your pain, and I am sorry. But remember that love really IS the greatest thing, and so, be sure to express it in all your relationships. Thank God every day for his many blessing. Keep your eyes and ears of love open; in a while, when you get yourself comfortable and happy again within your inner self, and when you least expect it, true love might just come calling again.

Thanks again for writing, and best wishes!!!