Q: A friend took his life…does The Urantia Book address this?
A: Thanks for your note of concern…I want to tell you how sorry I am for the loss of your friend to suicide.
The Urantia Book does not spend a lot of time talking about the act of suicide as regards the individual; there are only a couple of passages that comment about it. This first one is regarding Judas:</p
And this next one addresses suicide in general, and explains that it is one of the things that marks our difference from animal existence:
In both of these passage, we see that The Urantia Book considers suicide to be a failure, really, to harmonize oneself to the realities of earthly life. A person who resorts to suicide has not been able to achieve the emotional or intellectual maturity to deal effectively with discouragement, and they have not been able to create a working “art of living” which would buffer them from the ups and downs of life. This is not a judgment on them, but simply a sad observation.
In the treatise of Rodan, (Rodan’s Greek Philosophy ) from which the second passage has been taken, we receive some valuable teachings. The authors of The Urantia Book thought enough of this Greek philosopher to devote an entire paper to him and his way of thinking. The whole of Paper 160 is worth a read, but most especially I would recommend “ The Balance of Maturity , ” which discusses what is needed for successfully navigating the problems of temporal existence.
I wish your friend could have come across this… In the end, though, I suspect you want to know if your friend will survive to eternal life, even though he ended his life by his own hand. Even though I can’t say for sure, I certainly think it is likely that he will survive. Our heavenly Father is a God of Love, above all. He knows what we are, he knows what we suffer, he knows how we struggle, and in the case of your friend, he knows exactly what struggles that person had to face. “In all our afflictions, he is afflicted…” God’s love and MERCY are over all, so I would rest on that foundation as I think of your friend’s eternal fate. If we, as mere mortals, can have compassion for a suffering soul who sees no way out, I think it’s safe to say that God will have a far greater heart of compassion for such a soul.
Other thoughts:
Your friend has forever lost the potential for the actual life experience that he might have acquired, and that is a sad fact, but still, this does not necessarily affect his survival opportunity, as only God knows what might have been in the heart of this individual. From what I know of suicide, it is a desperate act born of great anguish—not a deliberate thought of doing something wrong against God. God knows our real reasons for doing what we do, so I would just trust God in this matter, and pray that your friend is now at peace. What’s done is done, and hopefully, new opportunities are emerging for him on the other side…one day, you’ll find out for sure.
This is a dark planet, full of error and sin; not everyone has the gumption and grit—and maturity—to make it through to the end. Life can hand us very difficult challenges, and, depending upon our heritage, our upbringing, our mental, physical and emotional health, and any number of other factors, we can either fight the good fight, or we can succumb to the pressure. In choosing death, we destroy our opportunity for actually living this first life, and that is very sad—but hopefully, not fatal to the survival of the soul.
Your friend chose to succumb, and again, I am sorry for your loss…this is saddest, of course, for those like you who are left behind to pick up the pieces. I pray that you experience peace over this sad event. Perhaps you’d like to read even more comforting Urantia Book teachings about death in our topical study HERE
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