Hi Debbie! Good to see you again
dkr315d wrote:I do not think, "In God's eyes" there is any need for a legal ralationship, aka marriage. It is more a human thing. Marriage has certain perks, taxes, health insurance, legal issues if there is a death. But to me, marriage is my promise to this person that you are the one person in my life that I want to be conneced to by name, and I will be with you forever. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. I think you should get married only if you are one of the few people on this plant that has "Good Judgement". I have good judgement, I have been married for 35 years and this is my best friend and I knew that when I married him. I really am perplexed by so many divorices, how can you love someone one minute and not the next? ANWSER: You didn't REALLY LOVE them. This is a family member that you decide you'r done with, how do you do that? I believe if you marry someone that you LIKE, maybe more than you love, and you think of them as a part of you family, then you can never throw them away. In my view, every divorce is a decree that you do were STUPID somewhere along the way. From what I see, peole are so stupid in relationships, bad judgement. Stone me.
! I like your post. I like this excerpt out of TUB because it recognizes the ideal relationship like you and you husband appear to have progressively achieved. Because it isn't achieved in a day. I t is achieved over a lifetime and perhaps enhanced as we progress further in our next life.
P.1777 - §1 I repeat, such inspiring and ennobling association finds its ideal possibilities in the human marriage relation. True, much is attained out of marriage,
and many, many marriages utterly fail to produce these moral and spiritual fruits. Too many times marriage is entered by those who seek other values which are lower than these superior accompaniments of human maturity. Ideal marriage must be founded on something more stable than the fluctuations of sentiment and the fickleness of mere sex attraction; it must be based on genuine and mutual personal devotion.
And thus, if you can build up such trustworthy and effective small units of human association, when these are assembled in the aggregate, the world will behold a great and glorified social structure, the civilization of mortal maturity. Such a race might begin to realize something of your Master's ideal of "peace on earth and good will among men."
While such a society would not be perfect or entirely free from evil, it would at least approach the stabilization of maturity.
But this excerpt also contains an astute revelation about the fact that these ideal relationships are not easily attainable. They require the personal devotion to one another that our world in general is just waking up to.
In general we are just discovering the importance of these relationships and the value of affording them a higher place in the importance of our lives. As such, evolutionarily, we should become more and more capable of passing these truths, that are not yet well established in our collective moral character, down to our children.
When these truths are better recognized
, and we pay more attention to creating and maintaining healthy positive relationships, than making money or material success than the divorce rate will begin to decline.
And the morality of civilization will continue to rise. IMHO
God's Blessing to you and your husband and your family Debbie.
I pray for your son to discover these truths of the value of created positive relationships and personal devotion to another human being. Amen.
God's peace be with you and may God's Love be your son's guide.