Susan bury them in the sand.
Tell them when the answer is important to them they must feel their connection to everything that exists. My eighteen year old about 3 weeks ago. Starting her second semester at college and coming back from visiting her Grandma in Mexico and getting caught in the experiential time differential of the rhythm of existence between the two cultures got disoriented and lost her connection to her centeredness.
As a last resort she came to me. (sound familiar
She said how she didn't know what to do in her life. Didn't know where she was going or what she wanted to do. She was really upset. And was at that stage where living and dying held the same amount of attraction in her life. A very dangerous place. Since going to College she has become involved in indigenous culture. And has had an interest in it.
It's like AL says the timing is important. Life creates these point of CRUX in our lives and it is at these we may make a decision that affects us the rest of our lives. And as a youngster like you know, we don't have the hindsight our parents have to highlight the right way to go. Neither do our parents have the power to violate our sovereign FREE WILL choice. They can try to influence us but we choose.
I know you know all that stuff Susan, so lets get back to practical applications. I see her need. I see her interest and trust in the indigenous. So with that timing and a sagacious approach. I saw "I have to bury you in the Sand." You must find your connection to Mother Earth, to Nature, to The Great Sprit and the Source of All that exists. You must find your foundation again. She looks at me weird and says, "OK". I left out one thing she loves the beach.
"We must go now. Are you ready?"
She says yes and we go. We walk on top of a dune move off the Trail to her left. I said, "lie down. Find a place where you are comfortable." I have her move a little this way and a little that way to center her in a little shallow in the sand to make it easier to bury her. I had her reverse her head and feat so her face would feel the warmth of the Sun upon it. It was a little cold. I wanted to keep her out of the shadow. When she was just right I told her "OK right there." And proceeded to bury her.
Oh I forgot to tell you, on the way we took her favorite way to the beach on a remote country road through the hills. About a 40 min. trip from our house. I stop in a place complete in shadow By some 100 plus year old Coast Redwood trees. I told her to get out and commune with the trees. She did it quite intuitively. I said they were alive when there was no road here and the Indians passed by them walking over the hills when this was just a foot trail. The Trees remembered them. They are related to us by there life. In our life we move around and experience things. In their life they experience things as they pass by. I said they know. Hug them feel there life. Let them ground you to the earth Our Mother so you can feel your roots in your connection to Our Mother Earth with our brother and sister trees. This was about 20 minutes then we left.
Ok so I’m burying her at the beach I pray to Our Mother earth to embrace her daughter to allow her daughter to feel her connection to the Great Spirit of all that exists from which the cosmos were created. I prayed for Her (Our earth Mother) to heal her daughter. Her daughter who sprang from her in the same life that is center in the ALL that is the center of everything. I said remind her where she came from. Remind her that she is your daughter and you live because that is the gift that was given you. We live to serve each other in Honor of the Great Sprit from which our life comes. It is a precious gift we are given and we must use it with care.
Well at a certain point I ran out of words or it was time to go because she had to pick up her little sister at school at 3:30pm and we has left about 12:30pm. It was time to go. I said OK “Your healed take your time to feel how your Mother loves you and how you are grounded in her and then lets’ go.
Latter she said she felt better. A few days latter she said “How’d did you know where to put me in the sand.” “It felt like I was in just the right place.” “I put you where your Mother wanted you to be.”, I said. Leaving it a mystery for her to solve at a future date.
She wasn’t totally cured but within about two weeks she said “I know I can’t change others, they still do what they want and it’s frustrating.” But I decided I can change myself and I decided to focus on my studies. She didn’t see me but I sighed a great sigh of relief. Whew. That was close. Lucked out again.
We do the best we can Susan. The rest is up to them. And thank God, God is with them and a bunch of other celestial’s who want to guide them the right way as much as we do. BUT we each have to do our part and then pray. Like I said recently,
Free Will can’t live with it, can’t Survive without it.
Someday choosing the right way won’t be such a hard thing to do. Until then it’s up to us to do the best we can to change that.
God’s peace and Love be with you and us All.