Hey Jess...hope you're still hanging around. There are very few of us here that have posted to any extent that have not stepped a little out of bounds, and the administration stepped in to let us know.
When it happened to me my initial reaction was, "It wasn't all my fault! I didn't start it! This isn't fair!" But that didn't last long once I looked at what the motivation had been behind my posts...it wasn't all "purity of heart".
It's probably natural to not want to see any of our faults...but late in my life I've been the recipient of an almost continuous lessen that: if something or someone disturbs me then I need to check myself. When I do (and sometimes I'll put that off for quite some time because I dearly love to feel blameless) I will usually find that there is a mixture of pride and fear that has been tweaked...and THAT is what is REALLY bothering me. Pride and fear, especially spiritual pride or righteous indignation, will get me nuts in a heartbeat. So if I'm going to get any peace of mind then I better address that problem first. And on those rare occassions that I'm actually innocent? Well, the question I have to answer then is...is it important enough for me to do battle? I only have X amount of energy left and just don't need to waste any of it, so if I walk into a battle it better be life and death important.
Anyway, I felt very much like you do...no one enjoys being publicly corrected. So I took some time off from posting...but I couldn't stop reading the posts on a daily basis.
I had not realized that I had come to count on TruthBook and the variety of personalities, wisdom, craziness, and life experiences of all those that contribute. What surprised me even more was that I also missed the posts of the people I was angry at
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Bottom line is that I just don't function well in isolation and there aren't too many UB readers in my area. I need this site. I need the fellowship. I even need the disputes...to make me look at myself and how full of myself I can sometimes get.
Like fishin mom said:
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Don't feel hurt by rules....they can turn out to be our best friend later on.
And Jess...those sites that have little or no guidelines...they are free-for-all's with very little substance. There will always be squabbles here, but we back up, look at the misstep, jump back in and try it again. This site is meatier than most so occasionally you'll bite into a piece of gristle...spit it out and come on back.
Peace
Jo